Here’s why men love to ask me if I am a goddess in bed — The first man to ask me if I was a goddess while making love was a sexy jazz musician. I was younger then, and more wild. I knew so much less about sex, pleasure, BDSM, and kink. Still, I was the type of girl who had been standing, just a few hours earlier, on a New York City subway platform in stilettos, hair still…

It’s about ownership and freedom I had identified as poly for about five years when the most unexpected thing happened; I met the love of my life. Blood pumping with love chemicals, for months on end, I wanted nothing more than to be with only him, to touch him, taste…

Perhaps video games can bring world peace — Let me paint the scene for you. It is a pastoral day in the the holy land. I am sitting on my balcony, enjoying the views, where I happen (to my chagrin…) to be able to hear my twenty something neighbor playing video games. Man, the dude is loud. Also…

An Unfolding Love Story — Part 5 Three Months, Two Weeks I am a writer of letters. My love history is strewn with them. They are my most prized possession. And, I love writing to you, and love that you love my writing. Do you know, I think I first…

An Unfolding Poly Love Story: Our true beginning Three Months Together Today is the real beginning. My honest words. His hard texts. Tears. Then love. We made love today. Raw and joined. We spent a perfect hour this morning together. He came over we sat. Quickly legs entwined. Quickly to the bedroom, where…

An Poly Unfolding Love Story: The Spell is Broken The spell is broken. He’s poly greedy, too busy, stretched too thin. He is the best among them. Strong. Smart. Honest. Sexy. I choose him, I want him. But I don’t have him. I prayed for him and he arrived. Divine…

An Poly Unfolding Love Story — Week Three “Sweetest blessing, my God, this is love. I could sing it from the rooftops.” What I love about him: He is open-hearted and beautifully resilient He is so sexy He is smart and curious. He is a reader and a learner He…

The first page of an unfolding poly love story When it comes to Twin Flames, the conventional wisdom says that the passion between them is so fiery that it cannot last. Some Twin Flame connections unfold in a single afternoon, or on a surprising single train ride. Others become life-changing…

As a polyamorous woman, there are some definitions of adultery I don’t understand — The longer that I live as a poly woman, the harder time I have understanding monogamous folks. As a woman raised in 20th century America, I was, of course, brought up to be monogamous. I learned the tropes about “happily ever after” and finding my “one and only.” But, to…